A discussion started in my favorite support group this morning about how society as a whole treats people with Obesity or Weight Issues poorly.
Points that were brought up that rang true for the majority of the group?
- passed up for jobs
- treated like you’re lazy / stupid
- not accepted easily to social groups
- used as a means to get to know your ‘skinny’ friend
I’ve seen and been on the receiving end of a few of these myself, but today, for once I took a good look at it all and thought – But what if a lot of it is reflective of our own making?
Don’t get me wrong, none of it is right or fair, but is there possibly something we can do to change it ourselves?
It all comes down to confidence, body language and self-love for me.
Confidence: If you have it, people tend to notice and will flock to you to try be in on your aura of powerful self.
Body Language: If you sit in a defensive position or ‘hide’ , you make yourself unapproachable, make others feel like you don’t want contact, but in reality it’s what you actually do want!
Self – Love: this one tags on to confidence a bit. If you love yourself, and don’t allow others to belittle or walk on you, then you will find people starting to think of you as an equal or peer.
Yes, it’s all over simplified, I’m only just starting to explore this, BUT I do feel that these three things, if you work on them, will help to alleviate some of the ways you are treated a bit more durable.
For me on this journey, I have noticed that people are less likely to dismiss my opinions since I have a boost in my confidence level and a hunger to research the crap out of things as I go.
Can working on the other things as I go improve this? probably! As a side benefit, my no longer sitting at home hiding, has led to going out, being more active and my healthy eating, self-care has ld to some weight loss. All of this is a big cycle that, in the end will hopefully bring me to where I want to be.
Happy, Healthy and Loving Life! Happy Monday Everyone!!
As always, I love to chat, so comment away, lets learn and grow together and from each other!